Approach each day as a celebration of living!
Joy and inner peace come from wholly entering
into the experience of life!
Be aware/Stay awake
Chant and sing
Breathe and smile
Cultivate oneself/Enhance competencies
Cultivate friendship and collaboration
Celebrate and appreciate
Walk softly/Live gently
Be born anew
from Awakening The Buddha Within by Lama Surya Das
Taken from Pearls of Wisdom Buddhist quotes http://www.sapphyr.net/index.htm
Buddhist quotes: http://www.sapphyr.net/buddhist/buddhist-quotes.htm
Remember your precious potential: Epilogue: The Tree Story
The whole self-esteem section of my website has many articles that I posted that contain the wisdom of how to change our relationship with ourselves as we make an unconditional commitment to meet our needs.
How did I break down my emotional walls?
I developed my own kind “internal mother” voice.
Just like a baby or child crying, you pay attention. How did I learn to do this?
In the past I had learned to be an excellent caregiver to my family and classmates but I didn’t know how to love and care for myself!
One of the most difficult things for me to do was to love me—in practice. To admit I was emotionally unhealthy—that I needed help. To take care of MY NEEDS required spending time on me! I finally HAD to put my needs on the list—first things first—and slow downand stop fixing everyone else. THAT was hard to do.
A day at a time, I’m falling in love with myself AS I AM. I’m respecting myself and treating myself with gentleness. I’m no longer willing to harm myself for ANYone or ANYthing.
When I find myself experiencing deep inner suffering, distress, or overwhelm, I pause and tune within and ask myself what is going on. I use loving self-talk and ask myself, what do I need to feel better?
When a baby cries, you pay attention.
Embrace your pain and confusion as a loving mother would toward her child.
Talk with yourself:
Oh, sweetheart, what is the matter? What do you need? I am here for you.
I will not abandon you and I love you.
I hear that you are in pain. Can you tell me about it? Take your time.
Let me know when you are ready. I don’t want to rush you or invalidate your feelings.
I will always be here for you.
So, let me know what hurts. Is there anything I can do to help?
To find a printer-friendly version (PDF): Develop Inner Nurturing Voice.pdf
When no one is around and I NEED a HUG—I wrap my arms around ME and give myself a HUG! I sprinkle dollops of delight and self-care towards myself. I tell myself, “I love you, Bobby Sweetheart. You are wonderful!”
Sprinkle Dollops of Delight and Self-Care Towards Yourself.
Oh, Dearest, you are wonderful! I love you! (For a larger version)
I love you as you are and as you are not.
This felt very odd and unnatural at first. But I thought that if I could hit me over the head and wish me dead—as I had done on many times before, then I could certainly give myself a hug and a kiss; just as I would to a loving friend.
When we find ourselves experiencing strong emotions remember, where we’re at is where we’re at! You or I can’t be anywhere else. So, just start there!
We start with touching our suffering—the things that hurt. When intense feelings come up, tune within and explore.
Part of the root of my depression and low self-esteem came from having delight deficiency syndrome. I didn’t take enough time to care for my soul and spirit in nurturing ways. I found that deep down I didn’t feel worthwhile.
For me, applied self-esteem was learning how to take time for activities that fill up my well of reserve; so from that well, I then take time to help others.
For me the daily practice of self-nurturing includes:
· Preparing yummy meals and snacks,
· Bringing a food bag with me
· Taking time for loving social connections
· Finding fun ways to be active on a regular basis
· Taking time to provide a rich treasure chest of nurturing activities for me.
· Making time for daily prayer and meditation and retreats on a regular basis
· Keeping my life in enough balance so that I can regularly apply all of these ideas.
Learn the skills for emotional nurturing. They’re euphoric and non-caloric! Learning and practicing these skills will help to transform emotional eating.
Investigate Emotional Eating, Do You Experience a RAIN of Feelings?, Bob’s Story The Emotional Area and Life-Long Companion for additional suggestions for self-embracing and self-honoring. Also please visit links below!
- An Alphabetical Guide to Zestful Living
- If You Would Grow
- Shine The Light of Self-Care on Yourself to Transform Inner Pain!
- Sprinkle Dollops of Delight and Self-Care Towards Yourself
- Home Coming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child & Healing Adverse Childhood Experiences
- Mental Nutrients: What To Say When You Talk To Your Self
- My Favorite Things!
- CELEBRATING The Simple Joys Of Life!
- Ideas for Self-Nurturing
- Radiate Your Light and Love to the World!
- Gratitude List
- Be Happy!
- Nourishing Affirmations!
- How to Work With Food Cravings