DIET = Die + “T” for Torture!
Have you ever been on a diet before? How did they work for you? What problems came up? Did the programs or approaches that you tried promote healthy, long-term changes in your life?
Did they promote respectful, empowering changes that you could follow for a lifetime? Most people don’t find permanent, enjoyable suggestions and strategies that help them make lasting adjustments in their lives.
This website does it differently. If you’re tried of all the OLD approaches, then read on to discover a fresh, FUN, new way!
All of the sections of this Web site apply my focus in Balanced Weight Management, that of cultivating Health-At-Any-Size.
This includes eating well (with pleasure and awareness), living actively (celebrating the joy of movement), and feeling good about yourself and others–really celebrating your life! Every section discusses an aspect of whole-person health: health of body, mind, and spirit. Frolic around the Essential Skills! Discover that as your life comes into greater balance…your weight and health will come into balance.
Before you begin your journey, I encourage you to set your motivation, your intention—your reason for making the effort. Fertilize your new growth with If You Would Grow. Bask in A Daily Reminder and Practice Kind Discipline: Transform The “Good/Bad” Paradigm, and lastly Life-Long Companion.
Encourage yourself with How to Keep Motivated: Remember Each Day Your Motivation! Doing this will help you weather the ups and downs of your life’s journey. Consider also that you want to free your heart, mind, body, and spirit from choices and patterns that don’t work. You want to be a healthy, happy camper! Perhaps explore How Can You Begin to Make Changes? and use the guidelines of the Daily Personal Check-In.
You Desire to Celebrate Your Life!☺ What Does It Look Like When Things Are Going Well?
Grim (harmful) approach
|Non-dieting* Gentle (nurturing) approach
© 2004, adapted with permission, Kaiser Permanente Northwest Health Education Services, Cultivating Health™ Weight Management Kit
Visit to Feast on a “Diet of Self-love” and Self-Care
Check out Linda Bacon, PhD for an exploration of HAES principles:
Feast on a diet of self-love
Stir up and savor nurturing thoughts and actions
The Diet VS Non-diet graph above expresses a holistic and respectful focus. This BLOG and Web site (see 12 Essential Skills section and others) make suggestions on how to apply this new paradigm. My intention is promote this new way of cultivating life-long health and well-being.
This BLOG and Web site is VERY ECLECTIC, that is I have included many different approaches from numerous authors. I have NOT found that there is any one approach that will work for everyone. The issues that I have explore have been all of the ones that influence the 20 – 60 people that I have seen every week during the last year and during the last 25 years that I have taught healthier lifestyle programs.
I have found that NO ONE approach, book, resource, or process provides the COMPLETE answer to personal transformation. So, take what you like (what works for you) and leave the rest (what doesn’t work for you).
Engender a sense of tolerance.
There are many paths to well-being.
Use what works. Release what doesn’t.
These tools and information are supplied as a initial support to promote self-management and self-awareness (guided learning) in certain areas. They are to provide FLEXIBLE–NOT RIGID–STRUCTURE and a “tool kit” of OPTIONS to try out. They are to be experimented with, using the suggestions and ideas FLEXIBLY and respectfully. Take what you like–what is helpful, and leave the rest–what isn’t helpful to you.
It is also essential to explore Do You Experience Overwhelming Circumstances? section if you find your life at present is touched by many challenging circumstances that make achieving a healthier weight seem impossible. You might feel helpless and hopeless about changing. Is this how you are feeling? I have felt that same way before. Things CAN change for the better.
To achieve a healthier life and be healthier–permanently, (health maintenance), you will need to change the way you live your life. An essential skill and practice is for YOU to become your own personal lifestyle coach. To begin, see How To Use This Site.
This process can be FUN and enjoyable! Self-care should NEVER be torture, or in any way personally disrespectful. You can learn to celebrate a healthful lifestyle! In fact, making FUN your focus will insure that your new patterns naturally become your new way you create your life.
Frolic around: CELEBRATE Healthful Eating! Yum! Make It FUN. Make It Colorful!, CELEBRATING The Simple Joys Of Life!, The Power of Fun: Celebrate Enjoyable Ways To Be Active!, Frolic in Nature, An Alphabetical Guide to Zestful Living, and Sprinkle Dollops of Delight and Self-Care Towards Yourself for ideas of how to begin.
My intention is that you DO NO HARM to yourself through your exploring and using any of the materials on my BLOG or Web site. You guide yourself with intention–the vision to be the happiest and healthiest you can be– but NOT torture or any form of self-disrespect!
Know when to focus out. Stop trying too hard. Make learning all of these new skills more like a enjoying a hobby rather than doing a tedious and difficult job. Practice the Essential Skill #9-self-nurturing and self-esteem when you find your “well of reserve” a little depleted and you feel drooped.
Along your journey of change, be gentle with yourself!
Be respectful towards yourself:
“Don’t shout at the apple and demand that it ripen!
It won’t ripen any faster and all you’ll get is a sore throat!!!”
—Advice given to me by my counselor